Calculating the many variables is a rather useless undertaking. Humanizing and contemplative, yet leading to dead ends. Passage of time, minutes creep by, checking and checking and checking. Thankfully, I find myself irritated by myself (queue analogy about being tight in a bud, compelled to bloom). Find myself curious, digesting disappointment and landing closer to indifference than the time before.
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Wednesday, November 22, 2023
The Call to Adaptation
Calculating the many variables is a rather useless undertaking. Humanizing and contemplative, yet leading to dead ends. Passage of time, minutes creep by, checking and checking and checking. Thankfully, I find myself irritated by myself (queue analogy about being tight in a bud, compelled to bloom). Find myself curious, digesting disappointment and landing closer to indifference than the time before.
Monday, November 20, 2023
Increasingly Human
Chances are, it's a ripe opportunity to bring myself back to myself. Lovely, perhaps. Delightful, yes. Ok, no matter what, completely. Complete and completely. Internal features I haven't felt in quite some time, many moons and suns ago. Surging up, to and fro. This body has turned over, many times. The current model is caught somewhere in fresh limbo. Like a bitter citrus peel, in need of straining and distillation. Might there be patience and delicacy, still while embracing the magnetics and giddiness of it all? May well also present as a chance to bid farewell to conjurings and wishful thoughts. Often there is a tangible flow that carries one to the rightest place to rest and learn-- something of a different exploration all together. I've no quarrel with pursuing the meanderings of this carved path. Yet I still may protest, may anguish, may dream impossible things. And not because it's dramatic or off, but because it is human. I'm increasingly human these days.
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Thanks to the dear friend who shared this piece with me in an optimal hour. It helped release trapped tears.
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Thursday, October 12, 2023
An Absurd and Peaceable Madness
Monday, March 27, 2023
Blameless Nameless Faceless
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The blameless understanding that I am human, with strengths and flaws. With big emotions and an even bigger heart. Examined, and for all that I can be, contented with here, right now.
Monday, April 19, 2021
I Refer to Therapy as the Brain Gym
Lots of writing ought to happen, if improving upon technique and presentation is to be ostensibly obtained. This weekend I stumbled across a YouTuber named Adventure Denali when searching videos regarding the topic of Traveler Notebook (TN) setups...because of course I was. And I did enjoy the presentation of how she uses a leather folio common with TNs to bundle her varietal of notebooks, namely a large Moleskin (my current notebook of usage--at least for about 15-20 more pages of jotting thoughts). I'm certainly not a fully committed journal-er, but I do write often enough that I typically go through a 250 page notebook in a year or so. But Adventure Denali, she actually goes through a similar notebook in a matter of 2-3 months. Wow. And it's a daily practice. As I've delved deeper into what it means to have hyperactive tendencies (I'm not running around or visibly hyperactive, but I am mentally active almost always. To the point of exhaustion, I posit. I knock myself out with thinking, that in many ways I'm so used to that I forget it's not often productive or useful), I know I must incorporate more tools for channeling those thoughts out of my damn head. So I don't intend to downsize my notebook size, but rather I want to remind myself that writing is another means of going to the gym. The brain gym. Because if I care about the aesthetics and bulk of anything, it's my sexy but unruly tending brain (because I'm a human, duh. And I'm aware of it, too. But that power has perhaps been underestimated. There's time, if I'm lucky, to improve upon that [lack of] habit). The process doesn't need to be complex, in fact, it's likely better that it not be. Write out date and time and just write, with or without specific prompting or topic. Also see: art journaling.
Cover of journal I've been scribbling in since April 9, 2020. |
Additional takeaway//reminders from Adventure Denali [Thank you!]:
-I want to travel alone. Just me and me big ol' brain.
-I do want to slow down and simplify in all the ways I can (ex. today just had the thought it might be a worthy experiment to take most apps off my phone, because I haven't yet tamed the beast, that beauty).
-I really don't enjoy my main "hobbies" being sleep, phone usage, TV, and welp...overwhelm and anxiety, I think. I'm just primed to channel it and it's a rather undesirable continuous presence. Anyway, make time for hobbies, like really. Like pencil it in and drudge through the painful bits, all the bits.
-Yet again, I do want to better target updates and channel my "brand" (that sounds awful, but it's a digestible and helpful term). Do people even care about VLOGS and shit anymore? No idea, no concern really. Just curious. But sure, things like: journaling, curiosity, sociology stuff, handy crafts, wellness, sending mail, et al. Something like that is what composes "me." [[Related, here's this talk with Joseph G-L on not basing creative pursuits on attention seeking desire.]]
Random other thought generated: how can a person be equal parts complex and fascinating but also calming and simplistic? Investigations continue.
Another related top-notch referral (trust me): Signing up for weekly inbox newsletter Maybe, Baby by Haley Nahman.
That's all for now, delightful humans.
Rest easy. I'm gonna try my dandiest. Soon-ish.
Friday, October 23, 2020
With the Vinegar, I too, take the Wine
Layers upon layers upon uneven layers. Placed and thrown about at different moments in time, the spaces in which I've existed throughout. And often the layers are little to do with me--not me as me, per say. It's how other people and situations intersect us and augment our realities with their bits and pieces. At least that's the lens through which for so long I've come to be acquainted with grief and anguish and all the rest of it--and perhaps that's the crux. Is it others, is it us, is it our own expectations, or even just the nature of existence? Existence is suffering, I write that to remind myself and reflect yet still.
Today was already heavy. Started and ended weighty. In ways I see how I got the story I thought I always wanted--of being so afflicted I'd remain stuck in bed and touting sonnets of melancholia. To learn the topographies of emotion, big emotion. Big friendship. Gray spaces. Losses and gains, but mostly all that is in between. Indifferent and often unseen.
This day was a day of re-introductions. "Allow me", said the layers of gray and gloom. These days I open the door most times, I instruct my psyche to entertain fear insofar as it might be impactfully utilized. Yet there are places I get so stuck, frozen in numbed seconds or the span of full days. The full damn day feels a waste, but I conjure up as much patience and presence as I might know. I slip into a yellow garment and line my lips with red and if need be, dig through the tool box of reliefs that have been elicited over as many years. Did you know that when you find yourself enveloped in big sadness, you're advised to bite down on a pencil? The act of biting on the pencil forms your face into a perhaps unintentional smile that tricks your body into releasing endorphins. I've done that and been there, and I'm not so lofty that I'd envision not being there one day again. Resorting to biting pencils and watching videos of baby sloths as tears stream and I rock back and forth in the shower. I think rocking back and forth gets a bad name, it for me has felt a means of dispelling tears and tensions.
So as all that remains swirls and churns, I label sadness and solace with a name. Let it exist and be holy. Less and less do I feel an urge to protest these realities, demand fairness or justice. For if not my own, I would have some that were another's. Along with the joys and less hapless emotional signposts I've come to know, the sad and heavy ones instruct me all the same. Just listen and attune yourself to their pitches and peaks, come to decipher best practices and advisable routes. Books and blog entries may only guide us so far and after that, you're off the map. More these days when I find myself lost, I sit down and feel the ground beneath my own body. Breathe deeply and belay myself to the board. I did that in ways just today. Sitting still isn't always what I'd imagine it to be, it's not grand and revolutionary--mostly I sense myself suspended in a solitary somber wheel of freebased emotional analysis.
I reflect a fair number of my broadest smiles have emerged at the same time as tears, in the complimentary seconds of observing some massively consuming anguish. For I have found that in sorrow I am often transformed into a human of gratitude-filled acknowledgements in all that has been a blessing. I don't want to feel sorry for me, not because I perceive it weak or anything of that ilk, but rather that it's limiting and useless after a stint of marinating. No doubt in varied dates throughout my history I've been both the vinegar and the wine, unsure of which might be most befittingly useful.
I truly cannot attest to being grateful that this or that has happened or that things unfold as they have or will. I am, however, glad to be continuously crafting myself into a truly skilled navigator. I'm wearing sweatshirts more because there are far more frequent cuuute options than I realized and they mesh decently well with kooky leggings and sensibly spunky tennies. And not to forget the accessories--a long draping necklace or big bold earnings and a pop of bright lipstick. It's all necessary on certain days, but often I find comfort in the mashup of stylings and functionality--feeling truly rounded and grounded and wise, ready with a chic but utilitarian (tool) bag. Lastly, some swimmers and floaties. To rest as I must, float on as I can, and strapped in for the ride. Because truly, it is one helluva dang dong ride.
Friday, September 25, 2020
A note. A commitment. A love letter. BLM
Song: https://youtu.be/4976Fgvf5Ps
Commentary:
Silky smooth musical medicine.
Maybe corny, but this popped in my head this morning and I’m thinking tenderly especially of my many BIPOC friends and fellow humans of the world who are receiving in no uncertain terms, as is typically the case in this unjust world, that they are disposable, undervalued, not loved, not important, or worthy. There’s so much horrid brutality and oppression about this universe, that once you become aware...REALLY aware, and THEN can comprehend your space and place and role in upholding injustice and perpetuation of pain to others, you begin to sense an unshakable urge to disrupt it. For me it has been a steady comprehension all through college, coming from a small majority white town, having a curiosity and openness to all that is other and new, to asking questions and leaning in and sitting through defensiveness, committing to the process of unlearning all the ways whiteness does mean expansion and possession at the expense of those deemed “lesser”, further understanding that whiteness isn’t skin color really—it’s a vibe, a purposefully invisibilized upholding of correspondingly dangerous philosophy of domination and a unshakeable belief in some “god given” “betterness” of a way of being and safety existing in the world and everyone else damned, it’s an unexamined commitment to all that is whiteness (again, it’s actually not skin color—it’s an oppressive world view and philosophy that propagates colonialism through indoctrinated adherence and unadulterated loyalty). And I’ve seen it folks, I see it now and back throughout history, a toxic cancer with many faces and power sources, arms of the state which extend through all of us when we uphold and perpetuate everything that whiteness is. All that to say—I’m in this, deep in this, and because I’m in this and have seen and felt and heard enough indication that the doctrine of white is as alive and well as ever—from dear friends and random strangers and people I’ve dated—that I don’t need further “proof”, I’m not here to argue about whiteness and racism and if it’s a thing or doing harm. It is undoubtedly, and will continue to wreck havoc on innocent persons the world over until enough folks with power (I.e. whiteness) get fed up. I been fed up and I do my damndest every day and moment to bring others into the fold. The path toward justice and the future of a truly equal world is unmistakably long and treacherous and fraught with all kinds of problematic bullshit that has and will cause harm, buuuut... I’m on it, more and more I’m getting in lock step, arm in arm with all the rest of those who are coming awake or have been to the real reality that injustice is real and thriving. This pain is all our pain. These deaths and killings are our deaths. And these protests are our protests. And you know, maybe they need to be “riots”. I like to think of them as bullshit identifiers. You don’t have to agree with or understand the approaches or tactics of those who have been perpetually abused and downtrodden and “other-Ed” into oblivion. You don’t need to “agree” with that to agree with the wrongness of injustice, in another court case where a woman in her bed was murdered and nothing like justice has been shown (yet again, yet again, yet again). The “evidence” is there so all I ask myself and all anyone with adherence to whiteness needs to ask is “Is this a system I want to contribute to? As it is currently, without much indication of possibility for real sustainable change//that isn’t hinged on actively harming others?” That’s it. And for me the answer continues to be no, hell no. And any implication or outright detraction of being a “race traitor” doesn’t phase me...you know why? Because I’m not white in any way beyond the fact that I’m pale as fuck. But the cool thing about that is that I also possess this power of White Girl Dangerous (most commonly exhibited by subspecies of whiteness genus “Karen”, neo nazis, straight up nazi, et al)—but I am the type of White Girl Dangerous that knows things, that understands more and more the power in this skin, the good I can do in leveraging the knowledge of whiteness to tear (nay, even burn it down), via sure, protesting, but also through tough conversations with even often truly well-meaning white folks who may come in the form of friends and family (hiiii, y’all). I’m White Girl Dangerous with a smile on my face, fist in the air, and the knowledge of many avenues I can go about fucking up all that is colonialism and genocide and whiteness and all other wrongness. An injury to one is unequivocally an injury to all. And y’all, we’re injured. We’re way culturally injured and lost and scared and angry and seriously...just wrong. We need to get right. Don’t you want to get right with us? I damn do. I pray and hope you may join us. And soon.
And truly to my BIPOC pals and friends and all other form of online connection. I do my best to see you and I want you to know I see you and beyond that value you and am protective as hell towards you. Always and more each day. I’ve no interest in virtue signaling or hollow promises of togetherness and oneness. But I do have a commitment to holding myself accountable and being as equipped and non-Karen White Girl Dangerous on any given day (it might not be possible to repurpose the white solidarity fist, but damn I wanna try). Heya hey, you lovely humans. Please do all you can to rest for even a bit and continue to shelter from all the horrible realities that show all the work that hasn’t been done. I hug you now only to say...I’m not going anywhere. I’m here and exploring all the ways to commit others to throwing out and burning the whiteness decree of foreveryear. Cause fuck this shit, since forever. I am certain this song is in my head for you. I want you around. And many of us want you and Breonna girl around and I’m in this. Don’t take my words for it, I aim to show you.
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